Tuesday, July 28, 2015

My Secrets to Getting Wedding-Ready

I am getting married in nearly two weeks!  I wanted to share with you my secrets for looking good and feeling great leading up to the big day!

Watch what you eat!  

If you don't look at it, you could spill carne asada on your white shorts.

Eat a wide variety.

Mexican two days in a row is only recommended if you just moved to San Diego...;)


Drink plenty of water.

Even if the state of California is in a major drought.

Teach someone else to do your day job so you have more time for wedding planning.

Go on a seafood diet.

Dig into ALL of your wine purchases to make sure your choices are up to par.

The guests don't need all that...

Friday, July 24, 2015

Compare and Despair

Do these scenarios sound familiar?

You are walking down the street and you notice a woman about your age in a cute outfit.  You think to yourself, "wow she has such great style, I wish I had a better fashion sense.  I look like a sloth, I need to get better clothes."

You are out at a restaurant with a group of friends.  You are craving a huge slushy margarita.  Your friends one by one order diet cokes.  After an extended moment of internal anxiety...you order a diet coke.

 Next time get the margarita!!

You are at the gym getting ready to walk into your favorite dance fitness class.  Then you see a super fit girl doing sprints on the treadmill.  You think to yourself "maybe I should start doing sprints, she looks great, I am not working hard enough."

 I know this meme doesn't really fit here.  But I like it.

Or what about when you meet someone who is the VP of Marketing and at a tech company and is 4 years younger than you.  Does the voice in your head start telling you you aren't smart enough on repeat?

These thoughts are all too familiar for me.  With social media and ads preying on our insecurities, sadly, it is normal to feel like we are in a constant state of not being good enough. I used to frequently compare my body to others, and I never felt like I measured up.  I also used to obsess over my food choices and feel guilty when I saw people consuming less than me.  I convinced myself that I could be thinner and I could have a perfect body, if I only worked hard enough.

Then I started to ask myself why?  Why do I need to be more like other people?  Why can't I be happy in my own skin?  Why can't I have the icecream?  Why can't I skip a workout?  Who is telling me that I need to be like others in order to be better?  Men?  Society?  WHO?

It was me.  I mean, of course there were societal influences, but I chose to believe them.

It has taken me a long time to understand that those thoughts are not okay and that I will be much happier just living.  Just focusing on what makes me feel good.  

If you feel stuck in the comparison trap too often, here are some ideas for challenging those negative assumptions:

1) Make a list of everything you are grateful for.
2) Make a list of your good qualities that you are proud of
3) Check in with yourself and what your body really needs in that moment
4) Remind yourself that your uniqueness is why your friends and family love you
5) Do something that you love, like paint, write, do yoga, go for a walk
6) Help someone in need or volunteer

Do you compare and despair?

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

What I Ate Wednesday - Because you are as nosey as me I hope?

Since my move to San Diego, I have changed up my eating routine quite a bit.  I now wake up much earlier, about 5:30am when I get in a workout.  My workday begins at 7am.  Which means lunch usually comes right at or before the noon hour.  And dinner is served like we live in a senior community.

I am usually hungry pretty soon after I wake up.  I also get hungry for multiple snacks per day, and that's okay.  I make sure I eat whenever I am hungry.  "Holding out" just isn't in my vocabulary anymore.  Our bodies are smart and they will tell us what we need if we listen to them.

So for What I Ate Wednesday, I am sharing a full day of eats.

Breakfast, 7:30am: A half of a grapefruit with a dollop of vanilla Greek yogurt, plus a packet of apple cinnamon oatmeal made with almond milk, topped with scoop of crunchy peanut butter and some sliced almonds.

Snack, 10am:  The rest of that vanilla Greek yogurt with a scoop of peanut butter mixed in.  You can't see it, but its definitely in there.  I obviously love peanut butter.

Lunch, 12:00pm:  A veggie burger topped with sliced avocado, an arugula salad with goat cheese, candied walnuts, dried cranberries, and poppyseed dressing.  With a sweet potato and butter on the side.  I also had an apple, which is not pictured :)

Snack, 2:30pm:  A Lara bar, YUM.

Snack, 4:30pm:   A COFFEE flavored Chobani yogurt.  OMG so good, I know it sounds weird, but I swear its delicious!  I eat a lot of yogurt...

See the crumbs on my thumb?  Gross, sorry.  I had a handful of chex mix prior to grabbing the yogurt...*blush*.

Dinner, 6pm: We picked up some grocery store kabobs and deli items and grilled on our roof.  Also had a Hawaiian roll with butter and a glass of wine.  Had a couple of servings of the edamame salad pictured below.

Then one more glass of wine and some music on our balcony after dinner.

We definitely don't take this San Diego weather for granted like most people here seem to do.  After moving from DC just a few weeks ago, we truly appreciate the cool ocean breeze and lack of humidity.

That was a day of eats for me!  Hope you had some delicious food too.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Links I Love

Over the past few weeks, I have stumbled upon a lot interesting reads online.  So I thought I would share some of my favorites here.

Why Carbs Aren't Your Enemy
This article, written by a a dietitian, explains that carbs are essential for health.  It also discusses the way diet culture is actually changing American food culture.

We Tried On Victorias' Secret Swimsuits and This is What Happened
"It is unhealthy for girls to only have one image of what a bikini body is..." Hear from a group of hilarious and confident women as they model Victoria's Secret swimsuits.

How to Not Feel Crazy Around Exercise
Are you working out to feel good?  Or are you working out to look a certain way?  Is attaching your self esteem to what you do always dangerous?

How to Counter Bad Body Days
We all have those days when we feel bloated or just down on our bodies, maybe the night after we over did it on booze and jumbo slice pizza.  Here are some tips from body love activists about how to overcome those negative thoughts.

Nude Female Athletes Preach Body Love on ESPN's Cover
Bodies come in all shapes and sizes.  Accept yourself and do you.

One Thing I didn't Pack
Carly made the decision NOT to pack her scale during her recent move to San Diego.  I love this girl's blog...I love her whole outlook.  Plus, that fact that I also just moved to SD makes me feel less like an outsider here.

For the Love of Pizza
How one woman discovered she had a problem and how pizza helped her become spiteful of her eating disorder.

Hope you enjoyed these reads as much as I did!  Let me know what you think :)

Sunday, July 5, 2015

A New Home

This was my first weekend in my new town of San Diego, California, over 2,000 miles away from Washington, D.C., which is where I have called home for the last five years.   Other than some random bouts of sadness about missing DC, it was a pretty awesome weekend.

After several hours of unpacking, we had a fantastic dinner at Cafe Chloe, a french restaurant just a couple of blocks from our apartment.  I had Tile Fish and Travis had the Steak Frites.

Followed by port, because liquid dessert is the ultimate reward for a day of unpacking.

We also found our neighborhood grocery store.  It's nice, other than the fact that 18 eggs cost nearly $7 in California.  After some research we discovered that it has something to do with a law requiring chickens to be able to spread their wings in their cages. I guess I am down with that. BUT REALLY,   $7?!

The good news is that we can get our eggs with a side of liquor now.

I got in a workout at our apartment gym, which is AMAZING.  

Since we don't have any friends here yet, we decided to go on a 4th of July 2-person pub crawl.  During which I enjoyed a spicy jalapeno margarita at a cute place in the Gaslamp called Cafe 21.  Will have to go back to try their variety of sangria soon.

Then we made our way back toward our apartment and discovered this awesome beer garden just a block from our place.  They had great beer, burgers, and even a dog park!  I started to feel a little lonely as we sat and drank our beers there, it seemed like everyone else was with their friends and I wished mine were there.  But watching the dogs play and run around helped alleviate the blues.

We also spent some time at our pool, which was good for people watching.  People are very different on the west coast versus the east coast.  I don't think it's bad, just different.  I grew up on the west coast, but the differences seem more prominent now having lived in DC for five years.

We walked to the San Diego harbor to watch the fireworks, which literately went on for 30 minutes!  Sorry, no pictures...as you may know, fireworks don't photograph well.

Oh and I bought a basil plant, the most essential purchase for a new apartment.

That's my update for now, hope you had a happy 4th too!