Tuesday, May 13, 2014

On Being Enough

Someone said something to me last week that I have thought a lot about.  She asked me why I insist on walking or jogging after I do workout classes at the gym.  I said, "because sometimes the one class isn't enough." She asked me if someone had told me that it wasn't enough and I said, that no, it was me who decided that it wasn't enough.  That I wasn't enough.

We sometimes get caught up thinking about all that we can do to improve ourselves.  Whether we are in search of a dream job, looking for a relationship, trying to fix a broken relationship, getting in shape, striving for our next promotion...trying to be "better" than we are now.

While I believe it is important to have ambitions, goals, and the drive to make things happen in our lives, there are times when we have to reflect on who we are and accept that we are enough.

For me, it has been that I was not thin enough or in shape enough.  In college, I never felt smart enough. In the workplace I often don't feel qualified enough. There was always more I could do to be better.  No matter how hard I worked out, I could always do more. No matter how many calories I cut, I could always cut more.  No matter how much I studied, I could always study more. No matter how qualified I was, I knew there were others who would know more.

Today I am telling myself that I am enough.  I am enough as I am today.  And so are you.


Accepting ourselves as we are now does not mean that we will never work to achieve our dreams.  It doesn't mean we will lie down and be lazy. 

It only means that we will try every day to love ourselves as we are, and we will see the good in ourselves as we are.  Right now.


Does anyone else every beat themselves up for "not being enough'?

Do you succumb to that toxic voice in your head or do you challenge it?




2 comments:

  1. wow you have no idea how much i appreciate this post today. i have been meditating on this thought a lot the past few months and it is slowly becoming more intrinsic for me. the first time i realized this, it was one of the greatest epiphanies i've had in my life. i used to be quite an anxious person, but i wasn't even aware of my own anxiety. now when i get anxious, i try to focus on this truth: all moments will pass. this will not break me. at the end of the day, it does not matter what my professor/boss/friend/classmate thinks of me. if i am happy and i love myself, that is ALL that matters. what freedom!

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    1. I am so glad you can relate. I think that this is the basis for most of the negative thoughts I have, and I think if we start to really challenge it, we can relax and be grateful for all we have. I love your advice as well "at the end of the day, it does not matter what my professor/boss/friend/classmate thinks of me. if i am happy and i love myself, that is ALL that matters." Love that.

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